Last Sunday afternoon, we unexpectedly bid farewell to a remarkable soul, Tom, in a moment that captured the fragility of life. His departure was abrupt, and as the news rippled through the hearts of those who knew him, we were left with a poignant reminder of the unpredictability of our journey on this earth.
Tom’s passing, however, offers us an opportunity to celebrate the extraordinary life he led, marked by a big heart, impeccable work ethic, and a commitment to making others laugh.
Tom’s unexpected departure was accompanied by the poignant detail that he never got to enjoy the Texas toast he was making or the 4 lbs. of crab legs he excitedly crammed into the freezer just two nights prior. In these seemingly ordinary moments, we find a reflection of Tom’s zest for life and his penchant for savoring the simple pleasures. It serves as a reminder that life is a collection of fleeting moments, urging us to embrace each day with gratitude and enthusiasm.
Those who had the privilege of knowing Tom can attest to the bigness of his heart and the depth of his compassion. He cared deeply about taking care of others, and this selflessness defined his interactions with friends, family, and the world around him. His legacy is woven into the fabric of countless lives he touched, leaving an indelible mark of kindness and warmth. Tom’s work ethic was nothing short of impeccable. An accomplished comedy writer adorned with numerous prestigious awards, he possessed a rare combination of talent, humility, and a commitment to his craft.
Despite his accolades, he often mused about how he should have followed in his father’s footsteps and joined the FBI. This reflection on his career choice reflects Tom’s selflessness and his belief in a greater purpose beyond personal achievements.
His sense of humor was legendary, and those fortunate enough to be in his orbit experienced the joy of his quick wit and infectious laughter. Tom found humor in life’s quirks and intricacies, turning mundane moments into opportunities for laughter. His comedic talent was not just a profession but an extension of his personality – fair, kind, inclusive, and funny as hell. Tom was more than an award-winning comedy writer; he was a man of depth, curiosity, and voracious appetites. A passionate reader, an enthusiastic eater, and a rescuer of cats, he lived life with an insatiable appetite for experience. He derived great joy from playing pranks on those he loved, turning ordinary days into moments of shared laughter and camaraderie.
For those who knew Tom well, his connection to the events of 9/11 was profound. He often declared that he was “in 9/11, on 9/11, and at 9/11,” living with a sense of urgency and an awareness of the fragility of life. This perspective may have influenced his belief that he would not live past the age of 40, and perhaps, it was this awareness that drove him to live his life to the fullest. As we reflect on Tom’s life, we are reminded that a celebratory memorial will take place in a few months.
This event will provide an opportunity for loved ones to come together, share stories, and reminisce about the laughter, joy, and unique charm that defined Tom. In the face of grief, the collective memories of those who knew him will become a source of comfort and a testament to a life well-lived.
The outpouring of love and support following Tom’s passing is a testament to the profound impact he had on the lives of those around him. As we mourn his departure, let us also celebrate the legacy of a man who brought laughter into the lives of others, cared deeply for those he loved, and lived with an unmatched enthusiasm for the richness of experience.
Rest in peace, Tom. You deserve the best. The love and laughter you shared with the world will be cherished, and your memory will continue to inspire us to approach life with the same zest, humor, and kindness that defined your extraordinary journey. I love you.
